Wow, it's already December! At the beginning of the year, I noted how it was a bit of a chore coming back to work after a long break. I believe I was referring to the whole "getting back into the groove" effort and trying to remember what it was you were doing prior to the break. Well, this week, as you know from the previous post, follows another somewhat long break in the form of the Thanksgiving break. While the break itself wasn't nearly as long as the wonderful winter break that we get every year, it is still a fairly long break, and coming back to work this week has been just as hard. The week has seemed to just drag on forever, and heck, it's
still not over yet! Usually, weeks that drag on and on are victims of having little work to do. This week, however, there actually is quite a bit of work to do. Still, the week drags.
As a result, I don't really have much journal material to write. I'm not sure you guys would want to read about what I'm doing at work (nor do I think I would be allowed to write about some of the stuff anyway), and non-work life is not particularly exciting at the moment. So, I've decided to take us back to my China 2002 Flashback series! Today's topic, our dating lives in Xi'an! Enjoy!

June, 2002. Kir-Wei and myself had gotten to know Candy and Cherry quite well, respectively. Both girls were in Kir-Wei's group in our first visit to the English Salon. One day, Kir-Wei was studying, or something, with Candy when Cherry called, asking to chat with Kir-Wei. As Kir-Wei was occupied, I decided to make a move, and Cherry and I went on our first date that night to downtown Xi'an. Over the next few weeks, Kir-Wei got very close to Candy (as evidenced one morning in class by a rather large hickey!) and I got close to Cherry (as evidenced by the lack of my appearances at group functions and staying out late at night). We went on a number of dates to the City Walls, around Shaanxi Normal University, late night ice cream and snacking around the town, and her college, 西安翻译学院, or Xi'an Translator's College, as well.
I've mentioned before in my other college flashback posts that I dated a lot in school, and my reputation among the other students in Xi'an was something of a player, though really, that's an exaggeration. If you want to see a player, see my boys Chris and Kaveh, the other members of the Tri-fectorate! Me, I enjoyed company, and was fairly proficient at obtaining digits and getting dates, but I wouldn't really consider myself to be a player. However, with both Kir-Wei and I hanging out regularly with Candy and Cherry, we weren't doing much to shed that label.

I have to admit, Kir-Wei was more capable than me. Candy really liked him a lot, as she would later even go with us on our vacation to the south. However, Cherry, as she often reminds me to this day, didn't really like me much when we first met. She says that I looked like a thug, and that the humble, book-smart kind of guy was more her type. I suppose there is some truth to her stereotype - after having dyed my hair red, not only was I often mistaken as a Korean tourist, but I looked so thug that I was actually stopped at her school by security to make sure that I wasn't there to stir up trouble! Little did she know at the time that my own academic achievements probably exceeded the vast majority of the bespectacled, academic types that she liked!

Eventually, the days came when Candy, and shortly afterwards, Cherry, had to leave Xi'an. Kir-Wei was pretty lonely for a while, but we would later meet up with her again during our vacation. He and Candy would eventually make a trip to Beijing after the rest of us had returned to Xi'an, and they both came back to Xi'an for much of the rest of our stay there, somewhat to my dismay (since I was kind of a perpetual third wheel). However, Kir-Wei is one of my best friends (not to mention the most regular visitor of Grant's Pad), so I tried to be a good sport!
When Cherry left, however, I didn't know when I would see her again. She didn't want to come with us on our trip, and left me with a farewell letter and a small pendant to remember her by. During our trip to the South, I tried to contact her many times, but on the one time that I could have crossed paths with her, I decided to continue with my friends to the rest of the trip. Eventually, she told me that her phone number had changed and gave me her home address, but I wasn't able to call her for a long time. Eventually, I wrote a letter to her, mostly in English, except for the introduction that I was able to piece together with my lousy command of written Chinese, and sent it to her in Shanghai, hoping that she would call me, but somewhat expecting that it was over...

Almost every day, I waited for her to call me. Towards the end of our stay in Xi'an, we were forced to move because of some math symposium that was going to be held in the hotel that we stayed at. As I had not yet heard from Cherry, I was pretty disappointed. However, our move was delayed, and once again I was given a little more hope! Miraculously, on the very last day before we actually moved to the International Student dorm of the nearby 外语学院, or Foreign Languages College (Candy's college), Cherry finally called. She had gotten my letter, which I had addressed incorrectly. By chance, her grandfather had walked past the pile of undelivered letters and saw on addressed to Cherry in horrifically poor Chinese penmanship. Cherry had read the letter and was so moved that she immediately called me after reading it and gave me her new phone number.
Of course, her new number was a pre-paid phone, and wouldn't you know it, she had run out of minutes before that call ended. It wouldn't be until Kir-Wei, Eric, and I were in Beijing on the last leg of the China 2002 trip that I was able to talk to her again. We kept in touch and I visited her in China several times over the next few years, getting to know one another better, and the rest, as they say, is history!
So, that's the story of how Cherry and I met, and the most important reason (among many many other wonderful ones) that my trip to China in 2002 has such a special place in my heart! From her initial dislike of me to the letter that finally brought us back together - it had ups and downs, but ends happily ever after, like my own personal fairy tale!